Jun. 19th, 2005 10:23 pm
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So, i've been online in one form or another for a decade. In that time I've met quite a few people from all over the world. First they were those online freaks, then they were online friends, then they were just friends. One of them even became my husband. Most of you know what I mean. Even if I haven't met a lot of you, or seen you since 1996, I still talk about my friend Tracey in Colorado or my friend Stella in Texas or my friend Lisa and her Avon Walks or whatever.

This LJ thing has brought a few different people into my life. Who knew there were cool online people that were NITZ? A few i just picked up because i saw them commenting in a bunch of my friends' journals. A few were pointed out to me by my friend Shanna in Georgia as someone who might be interesting to read.

So anyway, there was this one person I picked up a while back. [ profile] sunniedaze. She was a young woman - 25 or something. married. and very sick with Cystic Fibrosis. She'd had 2 transplants and was hoping for a third and wasn't really doing all that well. I last saw her post in May, talking about how tired and weak she was feeling. I thought nothing of it, really.

But then last night I got curious and tried to find out how she was. Turns out she passed away on May6.

And it just makes me sad because I didn't know.

She's the third online Friend i've lost in this decade. I spent hours last night trying to find out more or to find an online obituary. That took a while because I didn't even know her last name.

I'm not really sure what my point is here - just that it's hard to explain to a lot of people why I'm sad about the death of someone I never met, never really had any personal contact with aside from a few LJ comment exchanges. And i can't bear to remove her or [ profile] roghawk from my friends list. That would be even sadder.

Date: 2005-06-20 01:42 am (UTC)
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I'm really sorry about your friend, Chrissie. *hugs*

I know exactly what you mean though. It's hard to explain to people why you're so upset about someone you've never technically "met", so I usually just don't. Thank goodness Mark is as big an internet geek as me, so he completely understands.

Date: 2005-06-20 01:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Just because you never sat across a table and looked in someone's eyes doesn't mean they didn't have an impact on your life, or you on theirs.

Until 10 days ago, I'd only met one Zoner ever, and I wasn't even friends with Rog, but his death still touched me... as it would if anything happened to anyone else I know online.

It took over a year for me to meet one of my best friends in person. Did that make us any less of friends?? Hell no.

I'm sorry for the loss of your LJ friend :( Go hug your baby, it'll help.

Date: 2005-06-20 03:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Geez, Chrissie. I can't offer anything profound or helpful except for some *hugs*. If I say anymore, I'll sound trite.

Date: 2005-06-20 03:49 am (UTC)
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I'm sorry to hear about your LJ friend's death.
There are many people I've met online that I feel extremely close to and consider to be good, even great friends - and we've never been in the same room together. I think it's entirely understandable that you're saddened by the death of online friends; just because you didn't meet them in the flesh doesn't mean they didn't have any impact on your life.

Date: 2005-06-20 01:37 pm (UTC)

Oh my God.

Date: 2005-06-20 02:22 pm (UTC)
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I've been sending her cards, text messages, and e-mails, but I haven't checked on her lately. It's more difficult when she was to the the point where she couldn't sit up long enough to type or write. But she's been through difficult times before and bounced back. She was in a coma for most of last summer, and she made it. I guess I just thought that she'd make it again.

I've been friends with her via LJ for a few years now. How did you find out that she passed away? I've got to go look around now.

I feel terrible for not checking on her sooner...I just got caught up in my own shit and my new job. I mean, she knew that I cared, she always told me how much my little notes meant to her, but...I can't believe that I found out through your LJ.

The only thing I can think is that I'm glad she's finally pain-free.

Re: Oh my God.

Date: 2005-06-20 06:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I went looking through the CF communities she belonged to, to see if she had even been posting comments. I went back far enough and someone had posted that she had passed away.

The same information is found in the comments of her second last post.

I had only known her via LJ for a few months and it still is awful.

And yes, at least now she can breathe easily.


Date: 2005-06-20 02:37 pm (UTC)
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